When I was in the second grade, I reported a boy named Adrian to the bully box. I grabbed a piece of paper, wrote down the problem, and then slipped it into the box while staring him in the eye.
What was the problem? He wasn’t actually bullying me. He was just really annoying. He kept singing the Itsy-Bitsy Spider, and my seven-year-old self was losing her mind.
Even at seven I’d heard the joke too many times: “Your name’s Itxy? Like the Itsy-Bitsy-Spider?”
“Yes,” I’d say through gritted teeth. “Just like that.”
Sadly, the X in my name throws…
There are so many things to be afraid of. Death. Rejection. Failure. Heartbreak.
But good things can be just as terrifying. Living. Acceptance. Success. Love.
It doesn’t matter how badly you want something — when you finally get it, it’s change. And change is uncomfortable.
When you flip the page of a book and start a new chapter, it comes with a new set of challenges. You know the character will gain insights about the world and themselves, and that they’ll either grow or screw it all up.
It’s fun to read about, but when you’re the character, it’s tempting…
Have you ever bullied yourself for being less than happy, positive, and productive? It looks different for everyone:
We’d take our emotional pain more seriously if it bruised our skin, but since it’s all inside, we pretend it’s not a problem.
Some people still think self-care is a waste of time. But when you don’t prioritize your mental or emotional health, it…
We’re conditioned to feel guilty about doing things that don’t relate to work.
If you’re an entrepreneur, and you’re not hustling, you’re doing it wrong.
If you’re an artist, and you’re not creating, you don’t love it.
If you’re not working toward you’re goal, you’re not serious about it.
People are obsessed with obsession. “Don’t take your eyes off the prize,” they say. If we steer off the path or dare to get eight hours of sleep, it’s a sign that we don’t have what it takes to win.
The problem with this mindset is that we feel bad when…
Stressed. Overwhelmed. Worried. Most of us find ourselves in these positions more often than we wish. Life feels more blocked and heavy than free and light because our worries and insecurities eat away at us.
Now and then, we all need the reassurance that we’re aren’t doing life wrong. Here are 50 reminders for anyone who feels a little lost.
1. Don’t worry about what you don’t understand yet, like personal finance or how your iPhone camera works. You might feel like you need to understand it all right now, but you don’t. …
Pride Month is the best time to ride the rainbow and escape into some great love stories. These books won’t just entertain you, they’ll also give you an insight into the struggles and beauty that comes with being queer.
This book gives you everything from the disastrous first meeting between the love interests to the initial puppy love, and it gets deep into the heartbreak. But it’s so real. For a YA novel, the way the characters deal with their situations is realistic and refreshing — but also so messy.
Feeling creatively blocked feels like someone’s tied our hands, covered our eyes, and stuffed our ears with cotton balls. It’s exasperating when you can’t unlock the song you have inside or paint the exact image in your head.
But there’s one thing that makes it worse: not knowing why that’s happening. How do you solve a problem if you don’t know what the problem is?
Well, here are five reasons why you might be struggling to create — and more importantly, how to overcome them.
Sometimes the amount of tasks we have to do is so overwhelming it messes with…
A bad day will hit you at random — like a slap from Marshall to Barney in How I Met Your Mother. A fight with your partner, stress from work, or a bad night’s sleep can quickly alter your mood from joy to oh, boy.
But one bad feeling doesn’t have to dictate what you feel the rest of the day. You can pull yourself out of a slump in just a few hours.
This is where the toolkit comes in: a collection of random ways to lift your spirits when you feel down. …
Do you ever feel like you’re “irresponsible” with your time?
Do you ever feel like crap when you look at your half-done to-do list?
Do you ever feel guilty for not finishing your work, even if you had a good day?
If you’ve answered yes to all these questions, you might’ve fallen into a trap that lots of people are slipping into lately: you’ve tied your worth and joy to your work ethic. If you don’t work hard enough, you don’t believe you’re good enough.
I once, very seriously, called myself “useless” for not completing a to-do list. …
Love is words, but love is also action.
Saying, “I love you,” is so powerful it can warm someone’s chest and manipulate the muscles in their face to form a smile. They’re a magic spell.
It’s also easy to say. So easy that sometimes you throw it out without thinking and believe it’s enough. But love isn’t just something you say — it’s something you show. Whether it’s your partner, your best friend, or your brother.
Here are a few ways you can show someone you love them.
Our interests are a reflection of who we are. When we enjoy…
A self-help writer trying to be as honest as possible and hoping to make people feel less alone along the way.