I took a three-day break this weekend. Friday, at noon, my family and I left the house to visit some relatives.
While I did publish articles on Medium, I cheated a little. I took posts I’d uploaded months ago, changed the titled, and edited them.
I did as little work as possible because I didn’t want to work while I was with family.
Other than that, I didn’t share any blog posts on my personal blog. I didn’t send emails, promote my work, or anything else.
I sat, talked, and ate great food — and never once thought about my job.
This may not sound like a big deal, but some aspiring entrepreneurs don’t take breaks.
They lose their relationships with their friends and family and spend too much time at home and think it’s okay.
They believe these things are sacrifices worth making because every tenth hour spent locked up in their room, avoiding dinner with their family, is getting them one step closer to reaching their goals.
Hard work and success aren’t everything
I understand you have to hustle if you want to reach your goals. I know you have to put in hours of work and make sacrifices.
I’m not denying the importance of doing what you need to do to make your dreams a reality.
But no matter how much you want to win, you can’t give away your life for success.
I know this isn’t what people mean when they say the journey matters more than the destination, but these parts — the times spent not working — are just as significant.
Life is made up of more than just work.
I want nothing more than to be a famous blogger with bestselling books and to own the company of my dreams, but I’m not going to miss out on life along the way.
I won’t skip having lunch with my friends because I have to write yet another article. At some point, I have to stop telling my little brother no when he asks if I can play a game with him.
The people in my life, my mental health, and my life out outside of work are just are as important as my work life.
Hustle, but take breaks in between
If you want to lock yourself up in your room and work for ten hours straight (with meals in between) a couple of times a week, be my guest. But you can’t do that every goddamn day.
There’s so much of life to live, and that matters as much as your work. I’m not saying you have to go out every day.
However, dedicating a couple of nights a week to life outside of work will improve your quality of life overall.
Don’t put your physical and mental health at risk because you want your dreams to become a reality.
I don’t care how hard you want to work — five hours of sleep is not enough. Eating once a day isn’t healthy. You shouldn’t skip breakfast. It’s not good for your body to sit for hours and not stand up.
It’s okay to sit back and relax with a good book. It’s okay to work all day and have nights off. We all need to get this through our brains:
Success is important, but it’s not everything. Hustle hard but don’t overwork yourself. There is more to life than work.
Don’t abandon your people
I know you want to see success in your life. I know you might even want to prove some people wrong, and if you keep this up, there’s a good chance you’ll get everything you wanted.
You’ll have money, great connections, and plenty of success to show for it. But that is all you will have.
You won’t have someone to celebrate with because you pushed everyone that mattered away. Your friends will be happy for you, but they won’t feel the same excitement as you because they weren’t a part of your life.
Your family will be proud, but you won’t even have a great connection with them because you decided you were too busy to see them.
You won’t have the thing that makes this life great: relationships.
I don’t want to reach the top only to look around and see that no one I love is celebrating with me.
Friends, partners, family — they’re what make life worth it.
Don’t push anyone away just because you want to see success in your life. Hard work is so important, but life has so much more to offer.