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How to Be an Easy Person to Talk To
#1. Never make the conversation about you.
“You’re so easy to talk to” is the most common compliment I hear from people. I always found the comment strange because I wasn’t doing anything out of the ordinary on purpose.
I started paying attention to what I did versus what others did. This is what I found that I did differently from most, and what you can do:
Keep the conversation on them
When I talk, I expect to get through my entire story. However, I’ve noticed that people tend to interrupt to share their own relatable stories halfway through. They expect you to keep talking about it and forget yours.
Humans love to talk about themselves and share their stories. When someone is talking to you about something they’re going through, don’t interrupt and make the conversation about you.
If you do share a story to empathize or show you can relate, tie it back to them at the end. Don’t steer the conversation toward yourself or make them feel forgotten.
Never stop saying “mhm”
It’s easy to tell when someone’s blanked out of a conversation. They don’t nod, hum, and their eyes glaze over. Listening is about more than just hearing — you want to show…
