How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Believe You Can Win

If you don’t trust you can achieve your goal, you won’t.

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Believe in yourself is such a cliché phrase; it’s no wonder why people don’t think twice about its importance. Despite its heavy use on journal covers and Instagram posts, you do have to believe in yourself (and what you’re working toward).

Throughout your journey, you’re going to feel a lot of insecurity and doubt. You’ll wonder if you’re good enough, if you started too late, or if you’ll ever succeed.

You can tap into different types of motivation to pull you forward, but your most significant asset is trust — trust that you’ll solve your problems and win. Trust you’ve got this.

The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: Believing you can do it, believe you deserve it, and believing you’ll get it. — Unknown

Sometimes, the fears will be too intimidating, too scary, too loud. It’s during these moments when you have to tap into the belief that helped you start.

If you don’t trust you can achieve your goal, you won’t. Those frightening fears will only grow stronger and more terrifying. They’ll wash out any light inside of you like an eclipse. Eventually, you’ll quit.

If you don’t want to give up, then learn to have faith in yourself.

How to believe in yourself

It’s easy to doubt yourself and feel insecure about your passion and journey. When you start a new venture or try to succeed in an unconventional career, you’ll lack trust in yourself.

While a part of you was strong enough to begin, another part doesn’t believe you can make it to the end.

You need to see it this way: if someone has reached your dream, then you can too. You learn to have confidence in what you’re pursuing by remembering that you’re not attempting the impossible.

A couple of days ago, I watched an interview with the women of Gentefied, a new bilingual Netflix series. In the end, the interviewer asked the three actresses if audiences could expect a season two.

They don’t know yet, but one of the actresses, Karrie Martin, said, “‘It has been done’ is my phrase of the week — of the day, of the week, of the life.”

My version of Martin’s phrase is, “If they can do it, then so can I.”

If writers before me have succeeded on Medium, then so can I. If Mexican-American authors have traditionally published their books, then so can I.

Why shouldn’t you be able to reach your dream? That’s not a rhetorical question. Why shouldn’t you get the chance to succeed?

There’s no valid answer. Who you are, where you’re from, or what you’ve done doesn’t matter. There’s not one reason why you shouldn’t be able to reach your goals as countless others have done before you.

You’re not alone

The now-thriving people have felt just as stupid and doubtful and afraid as you are now.

Anna Lammot’s Birb By Bird stood out because she documented every strain of her writing journey. For Everyone by Jason Reynolds is another excellent motivational read because of his honesty with the doubt he struggled with in his journey as a creator.

Both of these taught me one lesson: All humans are afraid and doubt their greatness, but it’s the people who let their belief in themselves outshine their darkness who reach their dreams.

To be a champ you have to believe in yourself when no one else will. — Sugar Ray Robinson

Your fears don’t need to be the end of you. They don’t need to put a stop to your progress.

If you have faith in yourself, then you can become one of the few who succeed because those who trust will keep going when everyone else quits. If you keep going, you’ll reach some destination eventually.

But it all begins with you and trust.

Two more ways to believe in yourself

Can I be honest? I have zero doubt in my mind that I’ll be successful on Medium. I also don’t have any uncertainty that I’ll be traditionally published one day.

I don’t say that in a cocky, over-confident way because I think I’m super talented. I have endless worries about my writing, but I know I’ll succeed because I believe in myself. Because I won’t quit.

Because it has been done.

“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. ” — Christian D. Larson

I wouldn’t be writing this piece if I didn’t believe in the importance of trusting yourself and your abilities. You need to work on believing you can achieve what you’re working toward so you can keep going despite the obstacles you encounter.

1. You’ve found solutions to all your past problems

If you want to remind yourself of what you can achieve, reflect. Think about your past, your conflicts, your wins, your proudest moments.

If you’ve overcome all the obstacles you didn’t think you could, why shouldn’t you come out victorious this time?

Every situation you’ve encountered has made you stronger, has prepared you for this moment. You’ve got this. You’re intelligent, strong, brave, and you can win. You just have to trust.

2. Remember the alternative

You don’t have a choice but to have confidence in yourself. — unless you want to quit.

The alternative to not believing in yourself is letting your fears win. If you let that happen, you won’t stand a chance. You’ll give up.

Is that what you want to do? Do you want to quit? Or do you want to be one of the people who can look back and think, “I did it anyway.”

This shit wasn’t meant to be easy. Mentally, pursuing your own venture can be tough. But that doesn’t mean you have to give in. You can stand up and fight back.

Final words

Believe in yourself is more than an overused phrase children hear on Disney Channel. It’s true.

What you tell yourself everyday will either lift you up or tear you down. — Unknown

Believing in yourself and trusting your abilities can help push you forward if you let it. Believing is the antidote to the fear running through your veins.

The doubts will always be there, but they don’t have to be stronger. You can beat them. You can win. You can succeed.

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