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I Stopped Chasing My Dreams the Way Everyone Expected Me To
Here’s what I did instead.
If I told you I was working from home, as my own boss, you’d probably think it was great. That’s the dream, isn’t it? Over and over I read about people who are desperate to leave their nine to five jobs and chase their own dreams.
I enjoyed it for a long time, actually. I had a goal, and I worked toward it. I had a productive writing routine and lots of time to learn and hone my skills, all on my own schedule. I wouldn’t change anything about the last five years.
So why did I end up hating it?
The Problem With Pursuing Your Goals Without Caution
I took the route most people think they need to take: I made my dream my everything. Most people do, and it works for them. It didn’t work for me.
Before I knew it, I wasn’t a person who likes to write. I was a writer. Nothing more, nothing less. I became so focused on my work and making money that I accidentally ended up tying my entire identity to my goals. What does that mean exactly?
Before, it didn’t matter whether I completed a story or not. There were good days and bad days, and that was okay. After, it went like this:
