I love buying Christmas gifts — and gifts in general — so I look forward to holiday shopping.
However, not everyone enjoys it. Some people dread the entire thing, and every year they think, “If I didn’t have to buy Christmas presents, I wouldn't.”
If that’s the case, if you really don’t want to buy presents, then don’t purchase them.
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to get gifts
Some people love making gifts rather than buying them because they’re more special that way, but you’ll never catch me making anyone anything.
Does that make me a bad person? No. I’m not going to enjoy the process of making, so why would I waste time doing it?
If you don’t like buying gifts, you’re not a bad person. You just don’t like purchasing gifts. Done and done.
If you don’t enjoy the process, then there’s no point in forcing yourself to do it.
You’re supposed to enjoy giving
I love purchasing Christmas gifts, but I also enjoy giving them. That’s what makes the whole thing so damn special.
The point isn’t to give and expect to receive something back. The point is to give selflessly, without strings attached.
Perhaps you enjoy buying gifts, but not for Christmas. These types of gifts aren’t your thing because rather than giving because you want to, you feel obligated to.
As we all know, when you’re obligated to do something, it sucks the fun out of the process.
Gifts shouldn’t be obligatory
The point of gifts during Christmas is to give because you want to, but people have turned a selfless act into an obligatory one.
If you feel required to give, then don’t give.
“Okay, but what do I tell my family?” you’re probably asking.
Tell them the truth.
Tell them you don’t want to buy presents this year because you don’t like to. Say you feel obligated, and because that’s not the point, you won’t do it.
Will some people get mad? Honestly, probably — especially if they have kids. Those people clearly don’t understand what the point of giving gifts for Christmas is, so that’s their problem.
You can offer different types of gifts
If you feel forced to buy gifts, don’t get them. If you don’t enjoy the process, then there’s no point in wasting your time.
If there are certain people you want to buy gifts for, do it and give it to them in secret. (I’m not even joking — that’s what I do.)
If you want to give, but not store-bought presents, then you can do something else.
You can make the presents, write everyone letters, or even tell your nieces and nephews that your gift this year is to take them to the movies. It can be an experience you offer.
You don’t have to give a wrapped present. You can give dinner with you — their favorite aunt. You can take your sister bowling. You can take your partner on a big romantic date.
Give — if you want. And give what you like.