Nothing Happens If You Just Give In

For the ones who feel like they can’t keep fighting.

But all I know is nothing happens if you just give in
It can’t be any worse than how it’s been
And it just so happens that we just might win
So whatever happens, let’s begin — Watch What Happens, Newsies.

Life is hard sometimes. The Universe throws you curveballs at unexpected moments, you work hard and don’t see results, and things end up going the complete opposite way than you thought they would.

It’s moments like those that make us want to give up and give in — but giving up is so easy. When you quit, you can get away with doing anything.

You can throw a self-pity party and get drunk off of Excuses, and you can let Excuses flow into your bloodstream and shut off parts of your brain that force you to lay in bed for two weeks and prohibit you from trying again for as long as you let it.

Quitting is a chance to avoid getting hurt ever again. Wouldn’t we be fools not to take it?

But what’s the point in giving up?

Nothing happens if you just give in.

You could argue that nothing’s happening even though you try, but eventually, something has to happen. It might be tomorrow, three months from now, or even an entire year from today, but you’ll see results.

If you quit, you don’t give yourself the chance to see anything happen. You will be in the same position, not just a year from now, but ten, thirty, sixty years from now.

There’s a lot of things we’re not certain about, but this is one thing you can be sure of. Nothing will happen, and you will see no results if you quit.

You might not see results from your efforts either, not now, at least, but you will.

It can’t be any worse than how it’s been

If you want to give up with every inch of your being, it’s because you’re at rock bottom.

You’re struggling, or you might have no money. You feel like you’re business will never pick up because or that your writing won’t reach more people because it’s been two years.

You’re at the worst you’ve ever been, and things keep going wrong.

Believe it or not, being at rock bottom is a good thing because life can’t possibly get any worse.

“When you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up.” — Unknown

How long it takes to get to the good again doesn’t matter because at least you know you’ll get there someday.

You know you’ll get back to the top because you’re not giving up.

What if you focused on all the good again?

You have to focus on all of those things again. Right now, all of your attention is on what you don’t have. You don’t have money, stability, support — but if you keep thinking it, you’ll keep attracting it.

If you focus on the negative, you will continue to feel like absolute shit.

It’s like watching the news every morning. If you’re paying attention to all the terrible things going on, how could you possibly expect to feel light, happy, or motivated?

You might feel like you’re suffering, but if you look around you, you’re actually doing alright. Maybe you’re not great — but you’re alright.

When you focus on the thing going wrong, it consumes you, and it becomes everything.

It’s like when you read a book or watch a movie. The story will draw you in so much that the rest of the world melts away. If someone interrupts you halfway-through, those feelings vanish instantly, and you think, “Oh, right. None of it is real.”

These strong emotions you feel, the ones that make you feel like the world is ending, aren’t real.

You have to snap out of it, take a step back, and bring the rest of the world into focus again.

It’s only then that you’ll see that your problem isn’t everything and that there’s more good than you thought.

You could win, you know?

I know it doesn’t feel that way right now because you’ve experienced loss after loss, and you’re heartbroken and feeling hopeless, but you can win.

You can reach your goals. You can have a thriving business, and make a lot of money. You can feel okay again.

You have to make a choice: You can give up, or you can keep fighting.

If you think about it, what else do you have to lose? You might as well go in deeper and fight harder than you ever have.

You might be fucking tired of fighting, of working, of trying again (seriously, how many times can you “try again”?), but at least those things give you progress.

And you have made progress — maybe not as much as you would’ve liked, but it’s progress nonetheless. One step in a journey of a thousand is still one step closer than most people are willing to take.

Fighting is better than standing still and taking the punches life throws at you. Even if you’re losing, even if your eyebrow is split and you’ve got a black eye, at least you’re arms are still raised.

Don’t ever put them down because you might find a sliver of strength that lets you punch back and beat Life after all. Don’t ever put them down because you just might win.

Not an expert. Not a guru. Just a self-help writer trying to be as honest as possible and hoping to make a few people feel less alone along the way.

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