I keep seeing a common struggle amongst people who are trying to build a path for themselves. We don’t acknowledge our work or feel proud of ourselves.
There could be many reasons why we feel this way.
I enjoy the career I’ve chosen. I couldn’t imagine following a different one. However, even though the work fulfills me, now and then, by the end of the day, I feel like I’m not doing enough.
Work, despite it being challenging, is fun. But there’s still a part of me — and perhaps, a part of you — that believes work shouldn’t be pleasant.
Work is struggle, stress, and living on a weekly paycheck. It’s having co-workers and waking up early and dreading your day.
But you? You like what you do, so maybe you’re doing it all wrong.
It doesn’t matter that you spent three hours designing your website, recorded and edited a YouTube video, and scheduled social media posts. You didn’t do enough.
Even worse, you’re falling behind.
This thinking makes other aspects of your life difficult
As a writer, I need to work on my skills and craft. I need to invest time and money into my self-education.
Still, whenever I want to take that punctuation course I bought or read a book on writing, I don’t. It’s not “real” work. I should be finding a job.
Designing a Facebook post on Canva or watching a YouTube video on how to write the beginning of your book, doesn’t feel like enough. Perhaps you should google how to make a resume instead.
Your work is fulfilling. Deep down, you know it matters and that it’s important. But your brain is telling you the opposite. Your mind is telling you that what you’ve achieved isn’t enough to make you feel proud.
You're only playing around.
The lack of money makes it worse
I used to feel like I was only productive when I did work in which I earned money.
We still believe that we’re not working a real job until we get paid. You’re working ten hours every day but not earning a cent for it.
You don’t care that you’re not making money. You understand why. However, it deepens those feelings of disappointment — as if you’re not doing all you can.
I hope that just by reading this, you understand how wrong you are to feel discontent. If anything, this is when you should feel the most pleased with yourself.
Allow yourself to be proud of yourself and the process you’ve made. especially the process that no one else has seen. —Unknown
You’re living a life that should make you feel proud
If you were to wake up at six in the morning, drove to work, arrived at an office (where you got paid pretty well), and did the same work you’re doing now, how would you feel?
You’d feel like you were doing work that mattered. You’d feel gratified.
It sounds nice until you add the parts people despise: Traffic, your boss telling you which direction to take, negative coworkers, working on January first.
You’ll wish you were working from home, doing your own thing.
Here’s the thing: you’re living the life some people wish they had the guts to live.
You’re lucky. You should acknowledge that.
How many times did you dream about doing what you’re doing right now? You went from fantasizing to taking action. That deserves credit.
You’re trying and that counts
When you don’t see any sign of success, it adds to the feeling that you’re not doing enough. But remember, you’re trying.
At the end of the day, think back to everything you accomplished. Review your day until you feel at peace.
Being proud of yourself is an essential part of your happiness. Outside of the fact that sometimes you simply rock, pride signals to others that… what you’ve done matters. — A. Morningstar
When you acknowledge what you completed, you remember you’re doing something worth noticing.
You’re fucking trying. You’re doing work when most people aren’t even willing to begin. That counts for a whole lot — trust me.
Every step counts
You might not always feel like you’re doing “real” work, but think about where the actions you take now will take you.
I published four articles this week. That may not seem like a lot, but I’m four articles closer to reaching my five-year goal.
Every step you take counts. The lives you host. The social media posts. The work. The edits. The hours spent locked in your room. The learning. The reading.
All of it is work, and it’s necessary for you to succeed. If you don’t do any of it, how will you grow? How will you be better? How will you reach your goals?
Without any of these steps, you don’t move forward. With every step you take, no matter how small, you do.
You deserve to feel proud of yourself
I don’t like to throw around the word “deserve.” But if you’re working, and you’re doing what you need to do, then you deserve to feel satisfied with yourself.
You deserve to acknowledge yourself and your efforts.
By the way, you don’t need to work ten hours a day to feel proud. You don’t need to wake up at five in the morning, get a few hours of sleep, or lock yourself in your room seven days a week to feel contented.
If you’re doing work that matters and will take you one step forward to your goal, acknowledge it. Then, feel pleased with yourself.
If you keep believing that you’re not doing enough, you’ll quit. You’ll find a job that makes you feel normal.
I’m going to assume you don’t want that to happen. So, don’t let it happen. Think about what you’ve accomplished, and feel proud. You don’t have any other choice.
In the end, it’s about being proud of yourself for where you are now. — Unknown