You Can’t Just Manifest Your Dream Life, You Have to Work For It Too

How to actually use vision boards and affirmations.

Itxy Lopez
7 min readSep 30, 2022


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The eyes staring back at me were full-of-shock wide, and I laughed a little awkwardly. “That’s a lot,” my sister told me.

I’d just finished telling her about my worries for the next five years. No joke: I’d outlined how I envisioned my life and all the ways I feared it wouldn’t turn out as I wished.

As an overthinker and over-worrier, I can pick out a concern about tomorrow and paint a picture of how it’ll affect my life six months or five years down the line. One domino and a flick of my finger.

“I know it’s a lot,” I said.

“You can’t control that much,” she replied. “And you’re talking about years from now. You can’t possibly know what’s going to happen because anything can happen. You have to take it one step at a time. Just focus on your first goal.”

One Way to Stop Overworrying (Specifically About Your Goals)

Being an overthinker is especially frustrating when it pertains to my goals. I constantly stress about how I’m going to reach financial, personal, or career goals and it affects my approach.

When I’m nervous, I can’t focus. If I can’t focus, I can’t work. And if I can’t work, how do I expect to get anywhere?

I tell myself to “calm down and stop thinking about it,” but that doesn’t work. After some time, I realized that maybe I can’t stop worrying altogether, but I can interrupt it.

How? I tapped into a concept you’ve most likely heard about — I just use it a little differently: affirmations.

How I Use Affirmations to Calm My Mind (While Manifesting)

When people think of affirmations they might assume they’re just about “thinking your way” to their goal, but they’re more than that. It’s a lifeline you tug on when you feel like you’re drowning.

Affirmations don’t change your mindset, they shift it. It’s something you have to do over and over again.



Itxy Lopez

I’m a self-discovery writer: I write as I grow, make mistakes, and learn.